My bachelor’s degree is in Business Administration. Despite my degree, my status when it came to my relationship with the business world was always, “It’s complicated.” My senior year, while my cohorts debated over a few job offers or had received them by the end of the fall semester the only job offer I received came the week of graduation. Like, I was thisclose to moving back home with my parents. And after three and half years of working in the industry, it was over. And the end wasn’t pretty. It was not amicable nor was it fair. I lost my first corporate job when I was unable to get a permanent slot in the company. My second job ended barely two months in when upper management decided to make cuts and felt my position, which was brand new, wasn’t even necessary. I do not embarrass easily, but to be escorted out of the building (in the middle of the day) when your position has been eliminated effective immediately is beyond embarrassing, it’s mortifying.
Later on, I landed interviews on several different occasions for very good positions that were seemingly perfect for me. I passed through to the final round each time, only to get passed over in the end. Brokenhearted and confused, I’d try again. And with each rejection, I grew a bit more disenchanted. But I kept trying. I had the degree, I had the skills, I had the experience. Therefore, I just had to keep trying. And even after moving to Tampa, I tried. And yes, a few times after I found steady employment in the public sector, I tried crossing back to the corporate side. It was a vicious cycle, this make-up, break-up relationship I had with Corporate America. I constantly got burned, but I kept going back. Why? Because I figured if I kept knocking, somebody would let me in.
“It’ll be different this time! I’m sure you’ll grow to love me!”
Some time ago, I had an interview with the same company that escorted me off the premises almost seven years prior as they had a location here in Florida. The interview went well in my opinion. A few days later, I was notified that they had gone with someone else. Again. Passed over again. Believe that I was frustrated. I had stopped crying over it long ago. Now I was just ticked off. Just why was I putting myself through the heartache of trying to get into an industry that’s keeps letting me know that they don’t want me there? And when I couldn’t come up with a good answer, I realized I was ignoring the signs that it wasn’t a good fit. That I was the square peg trying to squeeze into a round hole. It was time to let it go. And in that moment, my love/hate relationship with the corporate world was over. I walked away and I haven’t looked back.
A few days ago, I came across an email from Tyler Perry. He spoke of having wells dug in his yard when he started getting some insanely high water bills. Though the story on the surface is about drilling holes in different spots in the yard until he hit water, he goes on to share the deeper meaning behind sharing that story. It’s actually two-fold, but I’ll focus on the “A” part:
Sometimes you will spend time on a thing and it will produce no water. Don’t be afraid to move on to another spot. YOU CAN’T HAVE FEAR. I don’t care how much time you put into it. If the well is dry MOVE ON! Nothing lives where there is no living water. Be it a relationship, a job, a business, don’t be afraid to move to another spot.
And that’s exactly what happened. I spent way too much energy trying to find something in an environment that wasn’t suited for me. As I think back on my time in those places, I realized the parts of the job that were the most fulfilling wasn’t necessarily the job itself (though the writing part was great). It was when I was of service to someone through volunteering, organizing fundraisers, and sitting on the board that ran the company’s charitable foundation. Even when I had to get to work at the crack of dawn to run a blood drive or when I caught the worst cold ever as a result of coordinating the penny wars fundraiser that had me crawling on the floor, touching a bunch of dirty pennies that spilled out of a cracked container, I didn’t mind, because at the end of the day, someone was going to be helped.
That’s where I am now with my current employment. The bottom line is serving the needs of the people. In all of my capacities with this sector, I’ve been able to touch someone in need. And once school is done, that service will continue in the nursing field.
Don’t be afraid to move to another spot, bottom line. If you feel stuck, you can get unstuck. You just have to set aside the fear, step out on faith, and move.
To read the message from Tyler Perry in its entirety, click here.
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